Why Do We Fall In Love?
You were walking down the street, nothing was unusual and then suddenly she came out from a nearby shop and it happened that you fell in love with her at first sight! Huhh!! What happened?!!
The answer is simple, its all related to how your mind works. If you are single or currently not involved in a relationship, your mind will always be on a hunt for your long awaited partner, even if you think that you don't care about that now, if someone did match your criteria then you will fall in love with them
But why she? Why not someone else?
Each one of us has got some kind of a check list stored into his/her mind which includes some criteria that the other person must meet in order to qualify as someone who could be loved by him/her. If any of the listed items was not matched then the person becomes disqualified and you just think of him/her as a friend. The items in your check list are of course unique and specific depending on your background, values, past experiences and beliefs.
The following is an example of the first three lines of a check list of a guy called Sam. Sam is a guy and his list starts with the following three conditions:
- Item one: She must be from the same educational background.
- Item two: Her hair must be yellow (Sam has always failed to establish successful relationships with blonds in the past and this his subconscious mind included this item as a way to make him compensate for his past failures)
- Item Three:She must be assertive. Sam wasn't an assertive person and thing we get attracted to those who have what we need therefore Sam's mind has included this item in his criteria.
If Sam is currently not involved in any relationship and then he met a girl having black hair then most likely he won't fall in love with her without understanding that the real reason is that she doesn't match his subconscious criteria.
People are usually unaware of their subconscious criteria and that's why they usually describe love as mysterious or as having no rules but the truth is that when you unfold your subconscious mind's criteria you will be able to know why do you fall in love, how to stop loving someone and how to make someone fall in love with you
Why do some people never recover from breakups
That's why people who think that there is something such as "the one" or the "soul mate" never recover from breakups, because they think that there is only one match for their criteria in this world and because they aren't aware of the fact that there are hundreds of people out there who could meet their criteria
Does love at the first sight really exist?
Yes it does. If someone met your unconscious criteria the same moment you saw him then most probably you will fall in love with him. You might be asking yourself, how can i know that he meets my criteria while i never talked to him before? The answer is simple, the criteria might involve items like the way he walks, talks or looks at you either because they have some connection to your past or either because they remind you of someone you loved before (people usually fall in love with those similar to the ones they loved before)
